By Tara Sutphen
Friendships can be a meeting of souls, where we are mysteriously drawn together and the connection is cosmic. Many of us don’t get a lot of time with people we enjoy, but it only means we are on individual earth journeys. Camaraderie is constructive in building our character. The building blocks of life, whether it be your siblings, family or friends, the more you value others, they in turn will appreciate you.
Sometimes no matter how we try, we’re not acknowledged by another. These are shamanic signs to discern unconditional love from conditional expectations. Not everyone can stay near to each other. We can learn from others and move on about our daily schedules. We all want the worthwhile friendships, easy connections and a contentment we didn’t know existed.
Attaching emotionally or intellectually is usually more than being mere acquaintances. Sometimes you’re interested in the same hobbies or just open to life experiences. The path of friendship, we don’t always know where we are going, there can be duality and decisions regarding people. What makes a right or wrong decision. Do we take a chance for others to enrich our lives. There is a big difference of possession and helpfulness, it’s better to openly share so that life becomes rich and unsorted. It can be quality vs quantity. We are too brighten each others day, we are to guide our friends in life. If you are a true friend, you never put that person in jeopardy. In the real world, safety is key.
And then there are the ones who would do anything to save you, even from your self. But what do you do to protect your relatives and allies. How do you keep them non-toxic and out of harms way. This can be physical recklessness to disregard, to wounding words to selfish behavior. We can easily misunderstand, just as others can easily misinterpret us. Where did a bond unravel, we do hear stories of close friends ending badly. Why wouldn’t your consistency hold another in place. Were they never a friend, or was it you. Do you hold a reliable pattern. What constitutes worthy friendship. How do we go the extra mile. Whether it is an emotional or intellectual bond. Whether we meant to include others or not. Maybe we can come to understand the basics of companionship. After all, many people just light up your life for no reason at all, and shouldn’t it stay that way.
Do you see yourself as a good friend?
What do you believe are your strengths and weakness’ in friendship?
Recognition of Friendship:
How to Make Friends –
- Be a Good Listener
- Be Friendly
- Staying a friend through bad events and good times
- Being vulnerable
- Offering advice
- Taking advice
- Problem Solving
- Deep Conversations
- Easy and light observations
- Constructive Criticism
- Building self-esteem
—-To Have Friends you must be a Friend, nothing is ever perfect but friends should be a calming voice in any storm, a hand to hold when scared or ill, laughter a-wild, and a beacon of hopefulness. The earth revolves around humans and it’s fitting to put our best foot forward. Sometimes we’re led to learn things so we meet our future and the appropriate people for our personal community.
——-“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.” -William Shakespeare